We all want to reach a state of ultimate happiness, and in order to get there we need to discover ourselves.
Questions we need to ask ourselves:
1. What will give me that inner satisfaction I am longing for? Is it work, family, health, social life, or is it something else?
2. How do I identify, execute and sustain my goals in life?
3. How to define my own value system, and not succumb to the societal pressures?
Do not let the people around you, or your community define you. Contradicting and debating Is good, and infact you learn a lot in the process.
However, the societal ways of thinking does not have to be yours. For example, if the society values working for money with unlimited financial goals, but that lifestyle does not resonate with you, it is important to push back, and emphasize your own goals and values, be it pursuing a hobby or volunteering for a cause, or simply furthering yourself in knowledge and experience.
Similarly, there are contradictions in regard to other aspects of life where one chooses their own path. Human beings are very adaptable by nature. What seems different at first might seem normal eventually, and get established with the passage of time.
Ways to do some soul searching:
1. Think about your own likes and dislikes. What are your goals for the future? What you value in your life? How do you want to see yourself 10-20 years from now?
2. Your likes and dislikes and your goals are only yours, it is important to evaluate them before forming your value system based upon them. How do they affect you and the people around you in the longer run? How do they affect your relationships? What are the pros and cons of your goals? What are the possible roadblocks in implementing your goals?
3. Find a role model based on your goals and look into their journey of success and struggles to learn more from their life experiences.
4. Ultimately, Build your own rules and live with them. Once you are happy with your choice of values and goals, stick to them and slowly you will find people with similar beliefs drawn towards you. Be honest with yourself and with others and be ready to deal with the struggles that come with it.
5. Build your dreams and your life around your own value system. But, it is very important to reflect and re-evaluate your goals and redefine them in order to make necessary changes if required.
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